Via https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vl-44jDYDJQ Treat it like a holiday. It starts when you wake up and lasts until you go to sleep. Rules Dos Drink water Meditate Write on paper with a pen Take a walk or other light exercise Don’ts No food No electronic devices No internet No phone No music No substances, alcohol, weed, coffee No hanging out No watching videos No talking to people No reading books No masturbating No naps Writing prompts Do I feel any discomfort today? Where in my body am I feeling it? Is this an emotion or physical pain? Try to describe as well as possible. ...

1. Get comfortable Sit in a meditation posture, whatever is most comfortable for you. Make sure you can expand your lungs freely without feeling any constriction. It is recommended to do this practice right after waking up, since your stomach is still empty, or before a meal. 2. 30 power breaths Imagine you’re blowing up a balloon. Inhale through the nose or mouth and exhale through the mouth in short but powerful bursts. Keep a steady pace and use your midriff fully. Close your eyes and do this around 30 times. Symptoms could include light-headedness and/or tingling sensations in the body. ...

https://www.quora.com/What-are-the-most-valuable-things-everyone-should-know/answer/Jordan-B-Peterson Tell the truth. Do not do things that you hate. Act so that you can tell the truth about how you act. Pursue what is meaningful, not what is expedient. If you have to choose, be the one who does things, instead of the one who is seen to do things. Pay attention. Assume that the person you are listening to might know something you need to know. Listen to them hard enough so that they will share it with you. Plan and work diligently to maintain the romance in your relationships. Be careful who you share good news with. Be careful who you share bad news with. Make at least one thing better every single place you go. Imagine who you could be, and then aim single-mindedly at that. Do not allow yourself to become arrogant or resentful. Try to make one room in your house as beautiful as possible. Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today. Work as hard as you possibly can on at least one thing and see what happens. If old memories still make you cry, write them down carefully and completely. Maintain your connections with people. Do not carelessly denigrate social institutions or artistic achievement. Treat yourself as if you were someone that you are responsible for helping. Ask someone to do you a small favour, so that he or she can ask you to do one in the future. Make friends with people who want the best for you. Do not try to rescue someone who does not want to be rescued, and be very careful about rescuing someone who does. Nothing well done is insignificant. Set your house in perfect order before you criticize the world. Dress like the person you want to be. Be precise in your speech. Stand up straight with your shoulders back. Don’t avoid something frightening if it stands in your way — and don’t do unnecessarily dangerous things. Do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them. Do not transform your wife into a maid. Do not hide unwanted things in the fog. Notice that opportunity lurks where responsibility has been abdicated. Read something written by someone great. Pet a cat when you encounter one on the street. Do not bother children when they are skateboarding. Don’t let bullies get away with it. Write a letter to the government if you see something that needs fixing — and propose a solution. Remember that what you do not yet know is more important than what you already know. Be grateful in spite of your suffering.

via Niel Strauss’ mailing list MEETING If you want to start dating better people, become a better person. You attract partners who are at your level of maturity and emotional intelligence. So instead of constantly shopping for the person you want to spend your life with, become the person you want to spend your life with. COMMITTING Not until you can be alone without loneliness are you ready for a relationship. ...

The most difficult thing is the decision to act. The rest is merely tenacity. The fears are paper tigers. You can do anything you decide to do. You can act to change and control your life; and the procedure, the process, is its own reward. — Amelia Earhart The muse visits during the act of creation, not before. — Roger Ebert Greatness is achieved in the agency of others. How do we build economic security, foster love, and find joy? How do we get rich? …Slowly. ...

In this post we will look closer at people with love addiction and love avoidance tendencies. Love [addicts/avoidants] are easy to identify. They have great fear of [abandonment/being controlled] stemming from childhood experiences and it shows in their distinctive mannerisms (see here). This fear can be restated as a lack of trust in their own abilities. If push comes to shove, when do you really [abandon/control] someone? Loosely speaking and subjective to the person that is doing the deed, it is when they [don’t contribute enough/make bad decisions]. So, the corresponding lack of trust is in their [self-worth/decision-quality]. ...

Stolen from a Twitter feed recompiling words of Alan Watts. I want to sit at a typewriter, carefully putting into words what I feel—the challenge being that it cannot really be put into words at all. I want to sit on some far-out rock or a lonely beach and listen to the waves and look at the Western sky at dawn. I want to see mountains and prowl through their foothills and forests, listening, at dusk, to unseen waterfalls. I want a female companion who will, alternatively, admire me and then suddenly show that she can do so many things much better than I. ...

I Love You But: the “Dance” of Love Addiction (and Love Avoidance) by Barbara Pawson and Chris John Since the dawn of time love addiction and love avoidance have been written about. In the biblical story, Adam is master of all and wants for nothing, yet his existential loneliness prompts God to create a helper and companion, Eve. His love for Eve is his weakness; Adam is seduced by her and eats the forbidden fruit, getting them both kicked out of the Garden of Eden, something that Eve has been blamed for ever since. In more modern tales, Prince Charming is hit with such intensity and appears to become so love addicted that he resorts to getting women of all shapes and sizes to try on a glass slipper. Once he finds Cinderella he whisks her away to live happily ever after. ...

Übungsformeln aus Das Autogene Training von Prof. Dr. Schulz Ich bin vollkommen ruhig und gelassen — vollkommen ruhig und gelassen Arme und Beine ganz schwer und warm — ganz schwer und warm — schwer und warm (3x) Ich bin vollkommen ruhig und gelassen — vollkommen ruhig und gelassen Herz und Atmung ganz ruhig und gleichmäßig — ganz ruhig und gleichmäßig — ruhig und gleichmäßig (3x) Ich bin vollkommen ruhig und gelassen — vollkommen ruhig und gelassen Sonnengeflecht strömend warm — strömend warm — strömend warm (3x) ...

Excerpt from the excellent book A Slip of the Keyboard: Collected Non-fiction by Terry Pratchett I get asked all the time, in letters and emails and questions from the floor: ‘Can you give me a few tips about being a writer?’ And you sense that gleam in the eye, that hope that somehow, this time, you’ll drop your guard and hand over the map to the Holy Grail or, preferably, its URL. I detect, now, a slightly worrying edge to all this, a hint of indignation that grammar, spelling and punctuation have a part to play (‘Don’t publishers have people to do all that?’ was one response) and that the universe is remiss in not making allowance for the fact that you don’t have the time. ...